Dr. Elvin PeaceStuck arguing?
Talking, but not really being heard. The same argument comes back, and nothing in it changes. One of you is tired of saying it. The other has gone quiet. You are talking at each other, not to each other, and the silence after the fight lasts longer than the fight. I hold a calm room for that. No one's side. The habit can be interrupted.
If that is the week you are in, call.
Dr. Elvin Peace · PhD, LCMHC, LCAS, NCC · 915 George Street · In person and telehealth · Accepting new clients.
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About Dr. Peace
When I work with a couple, the relationship is what is in the room. Communication is a bundle of habits. People get conditioned to them. They get defensive, they shut down, they try to solve it on the spot, and the talk gets messy. A lot of the time they are talking at each other, not to each other. They fall out of step, and they forget how to hold a space where both people can be heard.
My work is to help them learn that skill and take it home. Not a lofty idea. A practical way of staying in the conversation, integrated into the week they already have. Once those habits are in the room, they can learn a new rhythm. Both people can be heard and seen again, instead of shutting down.
Dr. Elvin Peace is a licensed clinical mental health counselor and licensed clinical addiction specialist in New Bern. A PhD in Leadership and a Stoic practice keep the room calm enough for that work.
Do you take a side?
No. The pattern is the problem, not one of you. Defensiveness and shutdown are habits the relationship learned. Call (252) 670-8357 and press 1 if you want that named.
How long does this take?
There is no set number of weeks. The first step is one 15-minute consultation, no charge, and it is not part of a session. After that, sessions are structured. You leave with one thing to use that week. It lasts as long as the skill is becoming part of the relationship, not as a theory about it.
What happens in a session?
When I work with a couple, the relationship is what is in the room. We slow the moment down, name the habit, the defending, the fixing, the going quiet, and practice a different response you can use at home. Not a lofty idea. A practical skill.
Can one person start?
Yes. Come alone or come together. One person can learn the skill. It changes faster when both are in the room. Call and press 1 either way.
Where do I start?
Call (252) 670-8357 and press 1 for a person. One 15-minute consultation, no charge. It is not part of a session.
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